I Loved Being an Expat, so I Bought a One Way Ticket to Singapore

Asia was where I was meant to be

When I first came back to Singapore as an adult in 2019, I worked at a now-defunct company called Zilingo. I went home to the UK briefly during the COVID lockdown in 2020, but it became clear to me that I had to head back to Singapore.

I secured a job at a fintech company called CardUp and was back in Singapore in September 2021.

Living in Singapore was comfortable. The weather is good. There’s a lot of travel, it’s multicultural. And there’s a lot of great food.

But Singapore is an expensive city. I spent around $7,000 monthly: $4,000 on rent and about $3,000 on bills from restaurants, bars, supermarkets, traveling, and other expenses.

Dating as an expat was not a breeze

Dating anywhere in the world is difficult, and I’ve done it pretty seriously in four countries: England, the US, Singapore, and Switzerland, where I did my master’s degree.

But in Singapore, I found there was a very small pool of people who fit into the same cultural space that I operated in. It was like I was trying to go fishing in a very small pond.

Then, I saw a video on TikTok of a group in the US who had set up the dating event. I posted a video in Singapore and said, “Hey Singaporeans, is anyone with me? Would you like to come to an event like this?”

Then, the whole thing snowballed, and I ended up hosting a dating event called “Singlepore.”

It was pretty amazing. It reflects a desire for offline, real-world ways to connect with people.

Deciding to move back to the UK

I spend a lot of time thinking about life versus lifestyle. In Singapore, I was living a lifestyle that I very much enjoyed.

But I was starting to feel unfulfilled in my life. I’ve been overseas for more than 18 years. I wanted to be around my friends from high school and college, so I decided to move home.

So, in July, I packed my bags and moved back to the UK.

It took me a long time to reach that conclusion because I moved abroad when I was eight. The idea of ​​”just being an English girl in England” kicked off a bit of an identity crisis. I was like: “Who am I if I’m not an expat?”

But I think that thought process underestimates how exotic and diverse England can be.

I now feel a sense of discovery about what living in England will be like. I don’t know how it’ll go — but I’m going to give it a try.