Rob Lowe credits couples therapy with making his 33-year marriage last

The “Unstable” actor added that going to couples therapy is often associated with the idea that a marriage is in trouble. “This is not how it should be. It should be like going to the trainers. It should literally be, “I went to the chiropractor,” he said.

Lowe and Berkoff met on a blind date in 1983, but only started dating after they reconnected on the set of “Bad Influence” in 1989, where Berkoff was a makeup artist. They married in 1991 and have two sons, Matthew and John Owen.

During the podcast, Lowe added that the secret to their long-lasting marriage was being “willing to catch up” with each other, even as they grew up at different speeds.

“Sometimes, it was my job to catch up with her. Other times, it was her job to catch up with me,” he said.

He said they are also “good friends” and are working on relationship issues instead of thinking “the grass is greener” with someone else.

“Any problem you think you have — and maybe you do — you say, ‘I’m probably going to have the same problem with the next person, so I might as well solve it here with this one, right,'” he said.

The benefits of couples therapy

In 2023, Verywell Mind surveyed 1,106 US adults living with their partner. The survey found that 99 percent of respondents who went to couples therapy said it had a positive impact on their relationship.

Business Insider reported in 2019 that couples who constantly fight, avoid conflict, disagree about finances, cheat, lack intimacy, or are considering divorce may want to consider seeking professional help.

“But it’s not just about appearance. Each person must be willing to commit to this process long enough for lasting change to occur,” Mary Kay Cocharo, a licensed family and marriage therapist, told BI at the time.

Couples considering therapy should also consider different types of therapy and find the right therapist.

“Since you’ll be sharing some of your most intimate thoughts and emotions, I think the therapist you choose to work with is more important than the methodology they use,” Gary Brown, a licensed family and marriage therapist, told BI in 2021. .

A Lowe’s representative did not immediately respond to a request for comment from BI sent outside regular business hours.