The woman says that at almost 40 years old, she knows that she will not regret not having children

In fact, they asked more in their 30s – some are giving up asking the question now, thankfully. It’s annoying, but honestly it’s nobody’s business. This ridiculous expectation is still placed on women that having children must be our greatest desire. Some with old views are surprised that some women i don’t want them.

Also, some women are unable to have children, which is a source of anguish and unfairly puts them in a position to beg.

People still keep pushing, though. I haven’t had a partner in years, so they’ll be like, “Well, you are she won’t have children now you?”

Single people have children all the time, and if I wanted to have children on my own, I could – through IVF, for example. But that’s prohibitively expensive, so at the moment I’m not.

I don’t have children because of my choices and I’m happy that way

I say I’m not childless by choice, but I am happy without children by the choices we have made in life.

I was in a serious relationship and it lasted for several years. It taught me how much work I need to do before entering another. This led me to be single by choice and not invest in looking for a partner for over 10 years.

I didn’t want to become a single parent by choice. If I was going to have children, I would be with a partner. Since I wasn’t actively looking, it meant being childless. I’m fine with that.

If a future partner would like children, I would be open to discussion. A lot of changes would have to happen for me to accommodate the children in my life. Right now, that’s not a priority for me. I am satisfied and will be fine if it never happens. I have a cute dog that keeps me happy and busy. I have two nieces and two nephews. Maybe it would be more of a miss if he wasn’t in my life. Christmas is a whole new adventure once the kids are back.

Friends my age know this is a no-go topic for group chats. We realized that asking women is invasive. She might try and struggle, or she might have suffered miscarriages. It is sensitive. It’s best for close friends in one-on-one conversations. My best friend has the same mindset as me about kids and that helps us bond.

I don’t think people should assume that women will regret not having children

The same older relatives will say I will I regret not having children of my own. It is condescending; men are not told that. I won’t regret it – I’ve seen how hard it is to raise children through my siblings and friends. Friends who had children in their 20s were candid about the challenges: the mental toll, the energy drain, and the need to include the children’s relationship with their father if they split up.

Having children is not a duty I have to fulfill as a woman; it should be a decision made carefully and wholeheartedly. I don’t want to impose my personal, emotional or financial problems on another human being. I need to sort out my crap and how to take care of myself properly before I even consider the idea of ​​kids.

The most common answer is: who will take care of yourself when you’re older? Not having kids doesn’t mean I don’t have people around who love me. And having children doesn’t guarantee you’ll have people to look after you as you get older.

Then there is the world you would bring this child into. I occasionally despair of what lies ahead for my nieces and nephews: the impact of the internet, social media, the lack of action around the climate crisis, and the harsh political and economic climate.

Women like me without children they are sometimes treated as objects of sympathy. We shouldn’t be. I can wake up when I want and socialize when I want. I could call a friend and have coffee in an hour, or jump on a plane next week to another country. And there’s still some money left after that. I don’t think it’s a reason for pity. I’ll wake up in my 40s and enjoy those things.