I plan to never date again; I prefer my drama-free single life

VaselineOctober 6, 2024

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I plan to never date again; I prefer my drama-free single life

Most of my friends are married and starting families, but I don’t want any of that.
I want to stay single because I love my drama-free single life.
I don’t have money for a wedding or kids and I already have a great sex life.

I’m at the stage in life where many of my friends are settling down and starting families.

First, there was the wedding phase. Every weekend seemed filled with another friend or cousin getting married. Now it’s all about the babies; everyone seems to be welcoming their first child. Seeing all my friends of 30 years finding love and building beautiful families is heartwarming. I just have no interest in joining them.

I decided to stay single and not pursue a romantic relationship or a family.

Some people find it strange that I consciously choose to be single. Society promotes the idea that we should all want relationships and families, but I’m not interested in any of that. Here’s why.

I already really love my life

I enjoy a quiet life. I engage in activities that keep me healthy, sleep well, and live in a lovely little house. I work for myself and avoid the stress of demanding jobs.

I often see my friends who are married and have children struggling with all the pressures – financially, emotionally and physically. I’m fine without all that.

I like being alone

The main reason I’m not interested in having a partner is that I really enjoy spending time alone.

A lot of people assume that being single means loneliness, but that’s not the case for me. I have many friends and I can connect with people whenever I want. I just find my alone time incredibly restful and fulfilling.

I like not having to discuss everything

I’ve been in relationships before, and while they were nice, the constant need to discuss and get approval for everything—from major life decisions to small day-to-day errands—always felt overwhelming.

As a single person, I value the peace and clarity of making decisions without consulting anyone else. It’s liberating.

I hate drama

Some people are okay with the emotional rollercoaster of relationships—arguments, arguments, and all that.

Many say that disagreements are normal in relationships, but they really hate arguments and confrontations. It affects me deeply.

I prefer a calm, drama-free life. I think it’s okay to want that. And I understand exactly that if I stay single.

I love the family I already have

I have a wonderful family that I enjoy spending time with. Investing in the family I already have feels incredibly rewarding.

As my parents age, I want to be there to support them. I feel that having my own family would distract me from this important role.

I am also an uncle and a godfather and I love to be involved in the lives of the little ones. And that’s enough for me.

I can’t afford a relationship or a family

Let’s face it: Getting married and raising children are probably the most expensive things most people do.

Weddings often cost thousands of dollars, and as a low-income person, such an expense is simply out of reach. Raising a family is even more expensive.

With the rising cost of living, I have to focus on supporting myself before thinking about starting a family.

I have a great sex life

Not dating doesn’t mean I lack intimacy or connection. I am well connected with the polyamorous community and can explore different types of relationships that suit my needs.

Modern apps and networks make it easy to find and connect with a variety of people without adhering to traditional dating conventions. I’m just making sure to communicate that I’m not looking to date or build a romantic relationship.